Today was a rough day.
I spent a good portion of the
day in bed. I didn’t sleep and I wasn’t having sex. I recently read that one
way to deal with very strong emotions was to go ahead and experience them
without acting on them as opposed to bottling them up or holding them back
until they explode. The chapter I read this from was specific to jealousy, but
ended by saying many strong emotions could be dealt with in this way.
Therefore, I lay in bed and I
suffered. This strong emotion washed over me, it filled me, and it crushed me. At
times today, I knew that I was dying, that no one, especially a weak coward
like me, could survive this. I did not
die.
I do not know how long I
cried, but it felt never ending…
until it ended.
Once the crying was done, the
emotional junk washed out, I laid there and thought, I reexamined where I was in life and where I was going.
I thought of what I wanted
and what I was willing to do to achieve it.
I thought of past wrongs and
future redemptions, quality of life as opposed to quantity of life, and I thought
of despair oddly mixed with hope.
Sometimes when you are rebuilding
something it is not only easier, but also better to just strip everything down
to the foundation, make sure it is sound, and then begin construction. I am
trying to rebuild a life that I have spent decades doing shoddy work on. I have
not educated myself and feel it is too late to correct that, I have no ambition
for my career I am as high as I am likely to go on my own, and I have failed at
two marriages, both of which I probably could have salvaged (or at least not
given up so easily).
Looking back on that kind of
life there is no wonder I never wanted a long life. I used to joke that I’d be
dead by 45, well I’m 47. Not all that long ago I would have told you I’d be ok
if I only lasted or survived another 10 years because all I was doing was
surviving.
I want to live not just survive.
My strong emotion session is
over for now and I cannot tell you I am completely better or stronger. I
certainly can’t say that I will not have to face that beast again, but I can
tell you I am still here and I am okay.